Boy’s sensitive nature worries his grandmother

Dear Abby: My grandson is 6 and very sensitive, maybe too sensitive. He’s also lovable, super scientific-minded, good-hearted and generous with his little sister. He still uses a diaper at night and has CVS (cyclical vomiting syndrome). It’s heartbreaking. He’s on a special gluten- free, no flour, no chocolate diet.

The other day at kindergarten they had a presentation with a magician about the danger of drugs and alcohol. His parents are very much into teaching their kids morals and values, and they only let him watch cartoons like “Paw Patrol” and similar programs. No movies and no TV. (Isn’t this too early to introduce the subject of drugs and alcohol to kids?) My grandson asked, “What are drugs and alcohol?” He was super scared and started to cry in class.

The school called his parents and he came home devastated. We reassured him that in our homes there are no drugs, and alcohol is in a cabinet only for adults who use it in moderation because it can hurt your body and mind.

Finally, he fell asleep still crying and took a short nap. He woke up still worried about the presentation, but Mom and Dad explained there was nothing to worry about, that he was living in a safe house and nobody would hurt him or Mom or Dad and no one in his family would be hurt by drugs or alcohol.

What is your opinion on this matter of super sensitivity? — Concerned Grandma

Dear Concerned: There are many super-sensitive adults who began life as super-sensitive children. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but children must learn to navigate the increasingly complicated world in which they live. Your grandson’s parents should have his pediatrician recommend a licensed child psychologist who can help the boy and his parents address the challenges ahead.

Dear Abby: My 34-yearold daughter is the youngest of three. She has never married and has no kids. Her friends, her older sister and both female cousins are all married. She has been seeing a guy for about three years, but it’s a long-distance relationship. She lives in Washington state; he’s in California.

During this time, they split up once after he told her he didn’t think she was The One. After six months apart, they started seeing each other again. It has been a year now. When he asks, she flies down to see him. How long should she stay in this relationship before getting engaged? — Clock-Watching Dad

Dear Dad: How long your 34-year-old daughter should stay in a relationship that appears to be headed nowhere is not for you or for me to decide. She’s an adult who has settled for a friends-with-benefits arrangement. If and when she concludes that it isn’t going to become anything more, she will move on.